Meaning of life is something that I
find myself struggling with. This
chapter was extremely interesting to me because it forced me to think about and
challenge many own values. One thing
that has continually come in the school counseling program has been the idea
that I determine my own attitude towards events. Whenever I find myself getting angry or
upset, I remind myself that I am deciding to feel this way; no one has the
power to make me feel this way. Corey
and Corey (2010) discussed this idea and how it related to Holocaust survivors
and how they were able to view what happened to them. They found that several of them were able to
get past the torture and realize that they still had a choice in how they
wanted to respond to what happened (Corey & Corey, 2010).
A philosophy of life is something
that seems overwhelming to develop.
Before reading this chapter, I thought that a philosophy of life was
something that only scientists and theorists had, but I realized that my
philosophy of life does not have to be set in stone, but it can be ever
changing. It can be something that is
fluid and adapts to fit your lifestyle.
As suggested by Corey and Corey (2010), I am extremely excited to read
Don Miguel Ruiz’s book about The Four
Agreements Companion Book.
Immediately after reading this section I looked up the book and
purchased it on amazon. I have found
that I tend to judge my own thoughts and opinions and I want to discover my
beliefs and feel confident in them.
Additionally I found the four agreements very interesting. The one that ruminated with me the most was,
“don’t take anything personally” (Corey & Corey, 2010, p. 380). I am consistently finding myself getting offended
by mild personal remarks. I tend to be a
people pleaser and therefore when I do something that does not appeal to
another person, I find myself over analyzing and stressing over it. Sometimes I need to realize that whatever
happened was not meant to be taken so personally.
In conclusion, one quote that
really stuck out to me was, “if you are secure in your values and basic
beliefs, you will not be threatened by those who have a different set of
beliefs and values” (Corey & Corey, 2010, p. 387). I need to remember that not everyone is going
to agree with me and that is ok. If
everyone agreed, it would be an extremely boring world. I need to be honest with myself and not
change my belief system to appeal to others.
My values are important to me, but they do not have to be important to
anyone else.
Corey, G. & Corey, M. S. (2010). Death and Loss. In
Brooks/Cole (9th edition), I Never Knew I Had a Choice. Belmont, CA:
Brooks/Cole, Cengage Learning.
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