For this chapter I think looking at the stereotypes I
conform and abstain from would be a fun way of going about things. The first one listed was “emotional
unavailability” and I readily acknowledge that I have huge problems with that.
I’ve always heard it was because I’m a man but I’ve never actually considered
it as so. As for the next two of independence and power/aggressiveness I feel
that they don’t apply to me at all. In fact, for most men I think that the
whole independence aspect is outdate as I know many men that are reliant on
their significant others. I also feel
this way about the next one of denial of fears and protection of inner self as
I don’t feel either of those really apply to me. The lack of bodily awareness is one I
completely agree with. Ironically I dealt with it today acknowledging I was
sick but saying it didn’t matter because I needed to work. I also think I
qualify for the driven to succeed aspect and that was definitely something that
was harkened on me externally and ironically from women. The denial of feminine qualities and rigidity
of perceptions however are completely opposite of me. As I told my group I
think I possess several feminine qualities and thus don’t believe in the whole
rigidity aspect. In fact, I was glad the book mentioned androgyny because I
feel that applies to me…
The whole stereotype aspect of the Corey &
Corey(2008) text also really resonated with me. It reminded me of Christmas
where my mother-in-law bought me a very practical present as we now have our
own place. She got me a complete tool set which I was happy to get. However,
everything crossing through my mind was not that she was being practical but
that she was trying to tell me something about my role as the male in the relationship.
I also found it interesting how
congruent the whole adhering to social roles keep men looking for the perfect
job, love, life etc because that’s a huge aspect of emerging adulthood in and
of itself.
As my
wife and I are currently a dual career family that too was good to read as I
saw some of the things we were adhering to while also making me feel good that
we were “progressive” in a way. At first I did the cooking and the cleaning but
now with graduate school she does those aspects. I felt the sentiment about
women in these situations having to feel like “Super Woman” was indeed true as
I am often telling my wife to slow down.
As for the Kim & McKenry (2002) article I liked
it as I think it kind of just touched on how I naturally feel about marriage
being something that generally is going to make you feel better about yourself
and life. The article seemed convoluted but that was because they were trying
to control for a lot of extraneous factors which was awesome.
Corey, G. & Corey,
M.S. (2008). I never knew I had a choice: Exploration in personal growth (9th
Edition). Belmont, CA: Brooks/Cole
Edition). Belmont, CA: Brooks/Cole
Kim, H.K., &
McKenry, P.C. (2002). The relationship between marriage and psychological
well-being.
Journal
of Family Issues, 23(8), 885-911.
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