Tuesday, April 2, 2013

Blog 8



Like it says in the Corey and Corey (2010) text, our society is faced with gender-role socialization.  I feel like I was one of those males who did not have the classic male stereotype.  Now don’t get me wrong, I love sports and I am very competitive but at the same time, I am caring and I consider myself to be emotional.  Corey and Corey (2010) describe that more men today are expressing both masculine and feminine dimensions and I feel as if I am one of those males.  I also may have both qualities because I started to grow up with a dad and then he left when I was around nine years old.  I grew up having those male qualities shown like the bread winner and the protector of the family but then when he left, I saw more of what my mom and sister did and I had to express myself in a way that they would understand.  It is not that I am any less of a man by showing my feelings, I think of myself has having the whole package.  Now to me the sounds boastful but I think it’s the truth and you know what, I like who I am.  I use to care what other people said when I was younger when they picked on me, but now it does not matter anymore.  Furthermore the text is right when it talks about how society is changing for men (2010).  I don’t know if that is because of the so many divorces or maybe that our society has become more knowledgeable with the benefits of emotions, but I think it is a great thing and it needs to happen.  Using this knowledge about myself can help me as a school counselor to recognize the roles that certain genders have and to use who I am to help others to express themselves in a way that works for them.
The Kim and Mckenry (2002) article on marriage and psychological well-being was interesting but at the same time it made sense.  The study showed that married couples had more of a psychological well-being than did those of non married couples.  Usually when someone gets married, they have a strong connection between the two and do not have a hard time talking to the other person and putting trust in them.  On the other side, someone who is in a cohabitation relationship maybe close, but they are not fully committed to each other.  From my background of my faith and what I believe marriage is, I feel that this is a no brainer.  By knowing this information, I can keep in mind that I do want to get married someday and if students ever have questions on this aspect, I can use this article to direct them in a direction. 

Corey, G., & Corey, M.S. (2010). I never knew I had a choice: Explorations in personal growth. (9th ed.). Belmont, California: Thompson Brooks/Cole.
Kim, H.K., & McKenry, P.C. (2002). The relationship between marriage and psychological well-being. Journal of Family Issues, 23, 885-911.  

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