Blog 9

            A couple of years ago, this topic of sexuality would have been a difficult topic to talk about openly.  I say this because sometimes my faith, as a Christian, looks down on sex when someone is not married.   Because of my faith, I also believe in abstinence until marriage and is probably why I didn’t want to talk about it.  Some Christians act like sex shouldn’t be talked about until marriage and I thought that to be true until I took a human sexuality class at Messiah College.  In that class we talked about sex all the time and how it related to our lives today and Christianity.  We also had to do a big project on our own sexuality which I must say was hard but at the same time rewarding.  I know now that is important to talk about sex with your partner because they don’t know what you’re thinking and feeling and the Corey and Corey (2010) text support open communication for sex.  After reading the chapter, I thought that they covered a lot but to me sexuality is not only talking about sex but also who we are and who we are attracted too.  It also has to deal with experimenting with sex to see what is good and what people like.  I think that this topic of the LGBT community is not talked about enough when thinking about sexuality.  It is not only about sex but about who we are and who we want to have sexual desires for.  For some people it is a hard topic to talk about but like it says in the Corey and Corey (2010) text that we should be talking about it.  I can use this knowledge of sexuality to help student to talk about what they are feeling and what they have experienced.  I can teach them about STDs and how to prevent them.  Sex is an important topic among high school students and this book helped me to reaffirm my beliefs about sexuality. 

            Relating sex to the article on jealousy can be something that can be hard to think about.  Usually, when your partner cheats on you by having sex with someone else can be hurtful and at the same time make someone very jealous.  Like it said in the Fleishmann, Spitzberg, and Roesch (2005), partners who are cheated on can feel relational revenge, reflects the desire to punish the partner, the need to get revenge, and the desire to control one’s partner.  These things are hard to consider but they are emotions that happen.  With this knowledge, I can help students to work through jealousy with their partners.

Corey, G., & Corey, M.S. (2010). I never knew I had a choice: Explorations in personal growth. (9^th ed.). Belmont, California: Thompson Brooks/Cole. 

Fleishmann, A.A, Spitzberg, B.H., Andersen, P.A., & Roesch S.C. (2005). Tickling the monster: Jealousy induction in relationships. The Journal of Social and Personal Relationships. 22, 49-73. DOI: 10.1177/0265407505049321