Chapter Nine on Sexuality

         Sexuality is a very important part of a relationship. On a personal level, I feel that the two go hand in hand, and I cannot see myself having one without the other. Although there were some instances in my life where the relationship status was questionable, but I think I have learned a lot from these experiences.

        Often times, I have felt uncomfortable or awkward voicing myself when its comes to the topic of sexuality. In the book it talks about therapeutic groups how they help people feel better talking about this topic, because they hear others expressing their feelings as well. I am unsure how I would fair in this way, but I do feel that it would be beneficial. This topic would probably be a bit of a challenge for me to discuss in my field, and I am sure at some point in time it may come up on occasion, because I would be working with high school students. This is something that I would like to gain more comfortable with, not just for my own benefit. Also, I am sure that communication on this level with a significant other is very essential.

         I grew up in a household where the discussion of sexuality was very seldom and it would be extremely awkward to talk about. My religion and family had influenced my thoughts on sexuality. However, growing older, I have formed different views than I had in the past. Basically, my thought process at that time was that abstinence was the only option. I was surprised to see in our textbook that abstinence means different things to different people. I was always under the impression that it meant no sexual intercourse and that was the extent of the definition.

          I feel that education about sex is extremely important in schools. Students should be informed about the options and the consequences that may derive from the choices they make. In every situation, I think it is essential that people learn about a particular topic so that they can make the proper decisions that fit with their needs. Every individual is unique and will have certain beliefs, but it is important to be educated in these areas so that understanding and seeing all options and possible outcomes is possible. We, as educators, can’t blame kids for something we haven’t talked to them about. This also applies to parents and children in the home.

Corey, Corey Schneider (2010). I Never Knew I Had a Choice.